Gender Roles

[mlmooney89]

I think men and women are the same.  I think it just depends on the person.

People say men and women are different purely to justify promiscuity and cheating in men. 

Evolutionary psychology says that men evolved to seek a variety of fertile, young, attractive women for sex.  Fine.

Then women evolved to seek one wealthy, older, protective alpha male!!

But now if a woman seeks that out, she's accused of being a "gold digger" or a "sugar baby."

Women have been shamed out of their natural role.

At best, they have to use tame words like "secure," "financially stable," or even just "ambitious."  At worst, they can't be remotely shallow or logistical and have to just love the person on the inside.

Meanwhile men can still use loaded words like "beautiful" or "gorgeous."  They can be complete dogs (not saying all men are, just that they're allowed to be).  They can say "no fatties" but you can't say "no losers" otherwise, people will say "who are you to call anyone a loser?"

So we should rise above evolution then and just split everything down the middle.  50-50.  Both be breadwinners.  Women learn to protect themselves.  And let women have a variety of sexual partners and still be marriage material.

I'm not with it completely today so if my thoughts run together or are muddled I apologize.

I agree that we should be more equal in society such as both being the breadwinner or having a stay at home dad instead of mom. Both genders should get to pick what they want to do and there should be no pretty little boxes each gender fits into. I also agree that biologically a good portion of the population has instincts to follow their gender role. I like older guys that can pay their bills and I would love to be a stay at home mom but that is because I want to not because I feel obligated to and I am not considered a gold digger. That term is reserved for women going after rich men not guys that can pay their bills (which is what I think most women want, they do want stability) Being a gold digger is not the same and we have every right to judge women for being shallow for only wanting money. That isn't biological at all that is greed. I also think our society, at least in my part of the world, is moving closer and closer to a more balanced gendered roles world. We do have more to learn and grow though.

I don't agree that men are allowed to cheat. No one gives them clearance to cheat they are given the clearance to sleep around if not steady with someone. I've seen more and more women opening up about sleeping around just like guys so from what I can see society is accepting this better but I know that where I live doesn't account for the whole country nor the world in general. Women are far more repressed in other countries where these issues are far more relevant.

Also I'm not sure how using beautiful or gorgeous are dog terms. I use them for both genders and I mean them honestly. Not everyone can be stunning. We are allowed to point out the beautiful ones. Sure men get reprimanded for saying no fatties but girls get knocked for saying no geeks, girlie, fatties, etc. Both genders create unfair stipulations and both are criticized for it. It's a little unfair to say that only guys are saying 'no fatties'. Who is 'allowing ' this? It may be because I am friends with gentlemen but none of my guy friends would treat women like that and they would find any guy that did just as disgusting as I would.