RE: [split] The Newly Departed thread: announcements (departures)
December 11, 2016 at 8:47 pm
(This post was last modified: December 11, 2016 at 8:54 pm by Edwardo Piet.)
(December 11, 2016 at 8:08 pm)Thumpalumpacus Wrote: To everyone involved -- comes a time when we should realize we're shoveling good money in after bad.
Picking at wounds generally slows down healing.
Absolutely!
But none of this even had to be a big deal. And it wouldn't even have to be a big deal now either if it weren't for others who would rather hold onto grudges based on their own complete misrepresenation of what someone said and damage a friendship than actually treat a spade as a spade, just feelings as just feelings and differences of opinion as differences of opinion.
It's ironically not me that can't let go. I don't always drop subjects but I don't hold onto resentment in the first place merely because someone disagrees with me. Nor do I project my own inability to handle a difference of opinion onto the other person.
There's literally no resentment to let go of. Not always the case on the other side...
I have friends that I disagree on on many things and it's obviously all completely fine because they're friends.
Psychological projection is far more common than I thought. In my experience I'm starting to learn that it's literally the people who can't handle disagreement who tell me to let things go and accuse me of not being able to handle disagreement when I disagree with them.
Well I already apologized outside of open forum and clearly I'm not the one who needs to apologize anyway because I never got personal.
Here I was apologizing for being rude because I was still a little rude for saying "Horseshit" and "bullshit" even though Judi was far ruder and harsher and got far more personal... I was still rude so I apologized anyway.
And what happens when I return?
People confirm that not only was I completely right but I was even more right than I thought I was. I very much am the one who has to walk on eggshells and I very much am NOT the one who can't handle disagreement.
People who take an attack on their opinions as an attack on them and insult me and misrepresent me and call me a liar... okay those people can fuck off out of my life now please.
