You can just get married in front of a judge if needed. Unfortunately for me, my wife's family is deeply Catholic and even though she is too, it probably would have been okay to get married outside of a church. We decided to get married in the Methodist church my parents took me to as a kid and that was hard enough for her family to swallow that it wasn't in a Catholic church. For that to happen I would have had to convert to Catholicism and that sure as hell wasn't happening. It was very painful to sit through a religious ceremony, but it was a compromise between the two of us because that's what marriage is.
If you don't want to have a religious ceremony though, I suggest you don't compromise just to please the family.
If you don't want to have a religious ceremony though, I suggest you don't compromise just to please the family.
Even if the open windows of science at first make us shiver after the cozy indoor warmth of traditional humanizing myths, in the end the fresh air brings vigor, and the great spaces have a splendor of their own - Bertrand Russell
