a new atheist and marriage

[Brian37]

Welcome to the forum.

You can be whatever you want. Me, registered republican, fiscal conservative married to a cafeteria catholic. But those are just labels which I don't always conform to.

I guess I'd be a nontraditional (fuckin labels). Probably influenced by the 60's and 70's and a very independent mother. Both partners should contribute equally to the relationship as their abilities allow. Financially, house up keep and maintenance, raising the kids, ............ 

BTW, you are allowed to ignore Brian.

Stay around and keep talking to us!

This right here should prove that "atheist" merely means "off" having nothing to do with gender rolls or economics.

Sorry Mr Brewer. My mother grew up in the same generation as "buck up, be a man, just do it". I could give a shit less. She also was a mostly lifetime voting republican.

I do know however, if it were not for her, I would have been on the streets long ago.

It is not a matter of both partners should. That is bullshit. Both partners should know what they are getting into before the relationship. You tell me what would be wrong if a female paid the bills and the man was not equal in pay? 

You tell me what would be wrong with say a man staying home and raising the kids? You tell me what would be wrong if a woman made more than a man? I do know from my own experience BOTH my X wife and my mom supported me and I have no problem being in a subordinate roll rather than leadership.

A penis and vagina don't determine who does what. Consent, communication and ability do. 

I've seen lots of shitty men who claim to be in the role of husband or parent. I've seen lots of awesome women taking the lead too.