1. Don't let society pressure you into having kids if you don't want them, and don't have them if you don't feel ready for them (this is one of the reasons why access to family planning and health care is important).
2. If you do have kids, remember that they're kids and not adults. They're not there to be used as a living doll for you to show off to friends and then ignore the rest of the time. They're not there to be your psychologist as you vent about things going on in your adult life that they really shouldn't be listening to. They're not supposed to be your only, best friend(s).
The combination happens far too often around my neck of the world. A bunch of parents unintentionally messing up the future generation because they have no coping mechanism of their own, and naively thought that having a child or two would magically turn them into a functional adult. It doesn't work that way. Kids aren't magic. Having one isn't going to save your relationship with your significant other, make you into a good person, or any of that shit.
2. If you do have kids, remember that they're kids and not adults. They're not there to be used as a living doll for you to show off to friends and then ignore the rest of the time. They're not there to be your psychologist as you vent about things going on in your adult life that they really shouldn't be listening to. They're not supposed to be your only, best friend(s).
The combination happens far too often around my neck of the world. A bunch of parents unintentionally messing up the future generation because they have no coping mechanism of their own, and naively thought that having a child or two would magically turn them into a functional adult. It doesn't work that way. Kids aren't magic. Having one isn't going to save your relationship with your significant other, make you into a good person, or any of that shit.
