What happens after death?

[Brian37]

Hello,

I'm going through therapy to help me cope with my thanatophobia (fear of death). I'm terrified of hospitals, doctors, sharp things, guns, gore. I'm constantly living in fear. I'm in sophomore high, and I'm taking a Health II class. I live with 3 smokers that smoke in the house, and now I'm afraid to get lung cancer because a book told me I could. The likelihood is really low because I avoid the smoke, but I can't help it. People tell me to believe in that God will be there for me, and everything will be okay. There's a part of me that is so terrified of this idea of the 'void,' and the so-called 'nothingness,' that it's tearing me apart and I don't know what to do about it.

I want to believe in life after death, but there's no evidence. I want to believe in heaven, but there's no evidence. Maybe I just need someone to talk to. I'm new to this forum, and a friend would be really great right now. 

Thank you!

I'd love to date Angelina Jolie, but that ain't going to happen anytime soon.

What happens after death? NOTHING..

Do you worry about the death of a cockroach? Do you worry about the pre life of a bacteria? Do you worry about the life of a spider 5 million years after it dies?

Humans like all other life are finite, there is not anything after death just like you did not exist 4 billion years ago.

You dont have to be fatalistic knowing that, you don't have to be sad knowing the ride ends.

You go to a movie and it ends, but you still go. You go to a music concert and it plays a last song, but you still go. You go to a sporting event and one team wins and one team loses but you still go. You  get a pet cat or pet dog, it lives for a while, you enjoy it, it dies, you mourn for a while, and you get another pet. 

You'll always have ups and downs in life and the ride still ends no matter what. But you can still enjoy life and be good and do good.

Your desire to want to be forever is just that, normal but still a false perception reflecting evolutionary drive to continue. 

The only thing that scares me about death would be losing my lucid state, and or prolonged pain. Fearing those I leave behind missing me and I missing them. But no, in cosmic time, I do not care to be forever nor do I worry about what life was like 4 billion or 13.8 billion years ago.

ENJOY what you have now, because there is no do over.