Question for the heterosexual men of AF

[Edwardo Piet]

The clear crystallized knee-jerk response of a phobic person.

I disagree, hammy love.

I love women, men, w2m, m2w, regardless. I don’t judge those who don’t, though. I’m pansexual, and I’m ok if someone else isn’t.

A sexual relationship can be very psychological. You can’t ignore your thoughts. For example, if I know the person I’m with is dumb, has no intelligence of any kind, that’s a turn-off. I can’t help it. I just can’t go on. If I like a person, then find out we’re related, I’m out! I just can’t. If I’m attracted to them, then find out they they’re Mormon, my brain has lost all interest. It’s just gonna happen.

A person who is not attracted to a transsexual person is not necessarily a phobic person. We’re allowed to have preferences. A phobic or bigot would be a person who’s an asshole to transsexual people just because they’re transsexual. They don’t have to fuck them to prove they accept them.

That’s just me, though.

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I know an Asian dude who’s into white women only. That’s what he likes. He’s not racist, it’s just his taste! Lol

I know a guy who loves women with pretty feet. He won’t date girls with gnarly feet. He doesn’t hate all the other women with ugly feet, he just likes them a certain way.

I know a girl who likes her girls to be short. She doesn’t like to feel short next to them. She’s not a bigot against tall girls, it’s just her taste.

I mean, I would find a penis in my mouth disgusting and that doesn't make me homophobic. But if to my surprise I didn't find it disgusting and then I pretended that I did... I can't think of why I would possibly lie to myself like that besides being homophobic even if I didn't know it.

For what it's worth, if I ever discovered that I had a gay side I would embrace it but if I didn't embrace that then I think that that would be homophobic of me. And, likewise, if I were to find someone to be highly attractive and then I discovered they were trans and I suddenly felt like I felt like they were no longer attractive... I think that would be transphobic of me for the same reason. But if I don't find any particular transperson attractive, or even if how they appear disgusts me sexually, I don't think that's transphobic, no. Just as if any particular dick in my mouth felt sexually disgusting to me I don't think that would make me homophobic.

I certainly don't think we can control what we are attracted to and I don't think ANYONE is bigoted for GENUINELY being attracted or not attracted to anyone or anything.... but what I am suspecting is that it's not actually possible to be genuinely turned off by the discovery of someone's chromosomes being different to what you thought they were (it's certainly possible to believe that you're no longer attracted but that's different (or believe that you believe that you're no longer attracted when deep down you know you still are and for the same reasons that you intially were, that had nothing to do with "Mmmm those tasty chromosones")), or to genuinely find someone of the same sex attractive and then suddenly bury those feelings without being homophobic when those feelings are still there.

Someone being stupid is certainly a genuine way to be turned off. But discovering someone's true chromosomes or that they had a sex change operation after you're already attracted to their mind and body before discovering that... is not like not being attracted to someone's body or mind.

Like I said on the other thread, I'd never consider someone who wasn't attracted to any particular black person to be a racist either. We can't help what we're attracted to. That isn't racist. Just as not being attracted to any particular transperson is not transphobic. Even if it happens to be all transpeople. Or all black people. But to not be attracted to someone because they're black, or to not be attracted to someone because they're trans, regardless of how your body and heart flows for them once you discover that they were born that way and you've already been attracted to them... how is that not racist or transphobic?