Question for the heterosexual men of AF

[henryp]

It is a problem. Thats why i limit my interneting to the few places that aren't full of dicks.

And yet everywhere you go, there you are.

The mere fact that people think that penises has absolutely anything to do with people without penises, should show how little sense it is to think that you're not attracted to someone without a penis because penises are out there elsewhere or were out there elsewhere. The very association of transwomen with penises alludes to bigotry and phobia. We're not talking about a transwoman who hasn't had a genital operation and still has a penis, we're not even talking about a transwoman with an unconvincing artiifical vagina... we're talking about a transwoman with a completely convincing artificial vagina so convincing that you'd never know the difference if you were never told she'd never have an operation, but if you are told you think about penises and mistakenly think that means you aren't attracted to the woman anymore, because, oh noes "yuck she used to be a dude". What kind of a reaction is that other than evidence of what your mind is really thinking about the kind of person you REALLY are? (a bigot).

Like I've said before, if people really are genuinely no longer turned on... then they're not bigots or transphobic. But I've listed my reasons for why I don't believe they are no longer attractive and why they are mistaken about what they think they feel, and how it makes no sense because they're not actually addressing what they think they're addressing, and it's something else they're unattracted to, not the transwoman.

It's not like on closer inspection afterwards you look at the transwoman and then spot male features and are no longer attracted. That wouldn't be transphobic at all. But if you continue to look at them and you still can't see any male features and you STILL find them attractive.... and then you think that the fact they used to have a penis means you don't.... the question is why are you deluded like that and what is driving that delusion?

I wonder if some of this is that some of us can just say 'no thanks', and that's not a big deal.  That the idea of finding an attractive woman we enjoy being around to be in a relationship with isn't some magical once in a lifetime, maybe never event, so when we look at some hypothetical baggage like this we can just take a pass because we know we could go find someone else.

If the choice was this person and nobody ever, it'd be a different decision.  Then I'd start rationalizing using the arguments your making.  Well, it's not a penis anymore.  And it looks like a normal vagina.  It's an unrealistic hypothetical about a different version of me, so who knows where I'd end up.