(March 30, 2018 at 8:16 am)rskovride Wrote:Catholic_Lady Wrote:Can you tell me what you are referring to specifically? Are you talking about monogamy?
Yes, I am talking about monogamy. I think monogamy is unnatural for our species.
Sorry for the late response.
Um no, it is natural. There is no such thing as "unnatural". All ratios either way are BOTH natural. I wouldn't put it the way you are saying.
I would say that evolution has lead life to make multiple attempts over the span of a lifetime. The more attempts at reproduction the more opportunity to lead to offspring.
I would say that the way religion sells monogamy is UNREALISTIC. Monogamy is certainly possible, but simply not mythological the way religion sells it.
Pairing is a way of social bonding, and that does happen in our species. What makes it unrealistic the way religion sells it, is it is sold as a utopia and forever, and the truth is that isn't realistic considering human's feelings for each other can and do change over time. The way religion sells monogamy doesn't take into account that humans, both sexes, are individuals and many don't want to get shacked up but because of the societal pressures do.
Kids should not be sold the idea that they have to get married, instead they should be taught their own comfort level, be educated as to how their own bodies work, and if you don't want to be tied down, be honest with whom you are with from the start. And even if you chose to get married, same thing because it is ok to change over time. Healthy relationships are about honesty either way, and the ability to let go if things are not working.
Humans, both sexes, evolved to make several attempts over a lifetime, and that can be with one person or multiple people over long periods. Point being it is mixed not either or.
It is "Unrealistic" to expect one size fits all, but paring itself does happen otherwise it would never happen.