My view and reasons for them. Atheist and Christians welcome here. (short)

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Well, that's some progress, but you've clearly still got some ways to go before understanding what atheism actually is (or rather what it isn't). It's simply a lack of belief in God. It's being "not a theist". You said yourself you're not a theist; if so, you're an atheist. You can call yourself something else like I say, but by common definitions, that's what you are. Some atheists are convinced in the absence of gods, some are just undecided. This last category is frequently mislabeled as "agnosticism".

If you have found atheists to be a certain way in your own experience, then that's fine. But try not to assume any particular one is going to conform to that. I have no idea what "comes with the territory" means. It would be like saying a certain characteristic comes with the territory of not believing in Bigfoot or the tooth fairy.