My view and reasons for them. Atheist and Christians welcome here. (short)

[robvalue]

You continue to over-complicate the definitions and add your own experiences and logical conclusions to them.

Theist means "a person who believes in God".

Atheist means "a person who lacks belief in God (a person who is not a theist)".

Everyone is one or the other, and it tells you absolutely nothing else about them.

The choice is yours, if you continue to strawman either position then you're going to run into problems here. I'll leave it at that.

PS: these words are merely descriptions of a person's mental state regarding this one issue. That's all they are. They're not clubs you join, or sets of values you pledge allegiance to. If you use a definition of atheism that includes all these extra things you want it to, then you're not talking about the same thing as us.