(June 19, 2018 at 9:41 pm)Kernel Sohcahtoa Wrote:(June 18, 2018 at 8:42 pm)*Deidre* Wrote: Monday, June 18th
Sometimes, I wonder about life. My life, and how it relates to others' lives. How I can read a situation, and think I really get it, but a few days later, I find out, that I read the entire situation all wrong. That I assumed all the wrong things.
Wouldn't it be great, if every single day...you could not assume anything. You could just look at new situations and new people, and not attach anything to them. Just let them play out as they should, instead of writing the narrative. I want to be that person. If there were ever an existential bucket list, that would be on it.
To stop assuming and to let myelf be surprised, either way.
I really do appreciate what you have written here. IMO, it is an awesome feeling to be able to put one's assumptions and preconceptions on the sidelines and to genuinely be open to viewing one's surroundings through the lenses of others. Suspending judgement of others and seeking to understand how the other makes sense of his or her surroundings, facilitates an inner calmness/confidence, which IMO, is very empowering: it creates a mindset of peace, inquiry, and understanding . This type of mindset has gotten away from me for the past couple of years, but I'm definitely trying to get it back and make it a part of me again.
I'm glad this resonated with you. I think the challenge with it, if we're honest, is that there are too many occasions when we have been insulted or disrespected by people in the past, to not make automatic assumptions about the next situation. But, it's an amazing day when I meet people who surprise me, in a good way.
