The bottom line is, I'm telling you as a matter of first-hand, personal experience, women can and do get raped and don't report it for decades. I would report in a second if anyone who fucked with me was about to be in a position of power. There you go. You now know it's possible. It's not a viable argument against his guilt.
I was 16. He was in his 20s. I let him kiss me at a party. When I was the last one left at the party and tried to go home, he said, "Don't you think it's too late for that?" I didn't resist. I said no, but I otherwise mentally and physically flatlined for the duration of what happened next. Then, I told no one. I was repulsed by him. I was embarrassed to tell anyone he'd touched me. I still am. Even writing this now, I feel like I will be judged as a "victim," "a whore," "a liar," "a drama queen," etc. I think people judge me personally for having been raped. I'm probably right. That's just one of multiple situations that occurred in my life, two because I was a helpless child (not particularly traumatic events, but molestation nonetheless) and two more because I drank around the wrong boys in my teens. Do you know how many people would blame me for the situations that happened in my teens? I do, because I see you people verbally assassinating other people like me on a daily basis. Fuck reporting. People still just want victims to shut up and keep feeding the machine.
I was 16. He was in his 20s. I let him kiss me at a party. When I was the last one left at the party and tried to go home, he said, "Don't you think it's too late for that?" I didn't resist. I said no, but I otherwise mentally and physically flatlined for the duration of what happened next. Then, I told no one. I was repulsed by him. I was embarrassed to tell anyone he'd touched me. I still am. Even writing this now, I feel like I will be judged as a "victim," "a whore," "a liar," "a drama queen," etc. I think people judge me personally for having been raped. I'm probably right. That's just one of multiple situations that occurred in my life, two because I was a helpless child (not particularly traumatic events, but molestation nonetheless) and two more because I drank around the wrong boys in my teens. Do you know how many people would blame me for the situations that happened in my teens? I do, because I see you people verbally assassinating other people like me on a daily basis. Fuck reporting. People still just want victims to shut up and keep feeding the machine.
