How to approach relationships?

[downbeatplumb]

Hi,

I would like to know your opinion about how to start a relationship (specifically with a girl since I am a man).

I will explain why I am asking this:

I am a (relatively handsome) 23 year old man who has never had any kind of relationship with a woman besides a friendship. Not sexual experience either (not even a kiss). The reason of this is because I have always wanted to have a relationship with a woman I genuinely like, and not just because I can or for sexual satisfaction. There was a girl I really liked (what people call a crush or oneitis). Unfortunately she rejected me. So since the ony girl I like rejects me, I see no point in looking for another girl since my desire for them is not as strong as the one I feel for the other girl. 5 years have passed since this.

But now that I am 23, I am wondering if I am wasting my youth. Sometimes I think I should just take every chance I get and hook up with multiple girls just for pleasure even if I dont really care about them (besides the minimum respect one should gor a human being), but then again, I feel it is a waste of time and energy for just a few minutes of physical pleasure. Then there is the other option: get a girlfriend even if I dont feel the same passion I feels towards the girl I genuinely like. The problem is, it would feel like a substitute. Like it will always make me remember what could have been but never was. And I believe this would be unfair for me and for her.

So what is your opinion? None of the options satisfy me. What I want is to have a girlfriend that I genuinely like and do activities such as traveling, etc., and not just sex. If your reply will be "Just get a gf and see how it goes", then I ask you, what makes her different from the rest? Since she is the same as any other girl, just prettier or uglier.

Hooking up with multiple girls looks like the best option, but none would fill my desire for a relationship.

Please only serious answers and not insulting. Thanks in advance.

Starting a relationship is something that just happens. 
Meet women and get to know them, perhaps one you like will like you back.

How you get to meet them is another matter.

What are the kids into these days, pokemon and disco?