If this helps at all:
I met my wife at age 18. We're both 30 now, and have been together the whole time. I've only ever had one girlfriend before her, so I might not be the best person to speak on this.
Generally, I found that it's partially the light you see relationships in. IE it's not all about sex, it's about the person as well. I mean sexual compatability is awesome, and is something to keep in mind, but obviously the person themselves is as, if not more, important.
For me I found in my teens I was putting women on this high pedestal of "Oh my goodness, women are so confusing/what do they want/I'm am but a dumb man" . Once I figured out that women are just other people, and much like your male friends you either get on with them or you don't. Women (and men) aren't some mystery to be concurred but just other people whom you might be sexually attracted to, as well as being friends with. For me, I don't think I can sleep with somebody I don't really "know" (I never played the field because of that) but in dating my now wife, we were good friends from the get go, because she is pretty cool. I liked her on that basis alone, before we ever really considered going out together, and the rest is history now.
Every body is different in how they feel on this. For me, being in love more than once (I was in love with my ex at the time) showed me that you can feel that way about other people, if you're open to it. If you shut yourself off from the world thinking there is only "the one" then you won't get very far. I'm a one women kid of guy, but I know it might not last forever either. Just something to keep in mind I suppose.
Overall, try to find somebody who maybe shares either A) a common interest or B) at least a common mind-set so you can share in each others interests equally. Me and Mrs. Oaktree have different tastes in music/movies and just about everything else, but we share a common mind-set so are happy to check out what the other person likes and go to things with them, that they might not normally think they would enjoy because of it.
Don't stress out about it, just find somebody you think is pretty cool and go from there.
I met my wife at age 18. We're both 30 now, and have been together the whole time. I've only ever had one girlfriend before her, so I might not be the best person to speak on this.
Generally, I found that it's partially the light you see relationships in. IE it's not all about sex, it's about the person as well. I mean sexual compatability is awesome, and is something to keep in mind, but obviously the person themselves is as, if not more, important.
For me I found in my teens I was putting women on this high pedestal of "Oh my goodness, women are so confusing/what do they want/I'm am but a dumb man" . Once I figured out that women are just other people, and much like your male friends you either get on with them or you don't. Women (and men) aren't some mystery to be concurred but just other people whom you might be sexually attracted to, as well as being friends with. For me, I don't think I can sleep with somebody I don't really "know" (I never played the field because of that) but in dating my now wife, we were good friends from the get go, because she is pretty cool. I liked her on that basis alone, before we ever really considered going out together, and the rest is history now.
Every body is different in how they feel on this. For me, being in love more than once (I was in love with my ex at the time) showed me that you can feel that way about other people, if you're open to it. If you shut yourself off from the world thinking there is only "the one" then you won't get very far. I'm a one women kid of guy, but I know it might not last forever either. Just something to keep in mind I suppose.
Overall, try to find somebody who maybe shares either A) a common interest or B) at least a common mind-set so you can share in each others interests equally. Me and Mrs. Oaktree have different tastes in music/movies and just about everything else, but we share a common mind-set so are happy to check out what the other person likes and go to things with them, that they might not normally think they would enjoy because of it.
Don't stress out about it, just find somebody you think is pretty cool and go from there.
"Be Excellent To Each Other"
