RE: How to approach relationships?
October 16, 2018 at 6:44 pm
(This post was last modified: October 16, 2018 at 6:45 pm by Macoleco.)
(October 16, 2018 at 6:10 pm)Aegon Wrote: The worst thing you can do, IMO, is be in a relationship just to be in one. A healthy, strong relationship is when two ndependent people decide to be together because they benefit the other. They bring out the good in one another. That is the only reason to date somebody. If you feel the need to date someone just for its own sake, then you need to work on yourself and learn to be content with being alone first.
I also think it's important to critically evaluate what you consider "love" is. A lot of people see "love" as a feeling that they get. To me, "I love you" is a commitment that transcends fleeting emotions, negative or positive. The "romantic love" that people feel in the beginning of a relationship won't last forever (according to psychology; for some, it may) You need to prepare for that eventually by separating love from emotion. That's just my opinion as a young man. I still have lots to learn.
Indeed one shouldnt be in a relationship just for being in one, but you also need to search for it. Otherwise it will never happen. I am very comfortable with being alone since I have been all this time lol.
Regarding if the emotion we call love lasts for all the relationship, I agree it probably wont. But something will last, along with a friendship.
(October 16, 2018 at 5:46 pm)Jörmungandr Wrote: Following up on Kevin's observation, I'm told that every time you fall in love it's different. Not better or worse, but different. So if you are looking for an experience with a new person to be similar to your prior experiences, only better, you may be setting yourself up for disappointment. The conventional wisdom is that each love is incomparable to prior loves.
Can I ask if you are a woman or man? Curiosity.
And thanks for the advice.
