(November 13, 2018 at 10:39 pm)wyzas Wrote: Did any of you read CL's CIJS post? And my responses?
https://atheistforums.org/thread-43505-p...t=pregnant post #6115
Do none of you see self pity in that post? I know CL was venting but what was being said was a little hard core.
Yes, I was insensitive, but sometimes people need to hear some tough love. I've been hoping that CL would get past this for awhile but not seeing much progress. And if you haven't seen my support for CL in the past then you haven't been looking.
If my poke in the CIJS thread and post in this thread pissed you/CL off enough to move on, well, what can I say. Maybe what I had to say had nothing to do with you moving on. But then, ................
I will take responsibility for being insensitive and I do apologize CL. I've been in a tough love mode with several people IRL for months. You might have got caught up in that, it's my fault, not yours.
Clearly you missed the point of the dialogue between you and I during that time as well. As CL said - that thread is for venting. Hard core or not - she was doing what she needed to in order to get it out and vent. Your first post in response to that was very unnecessary and not even in the same zip code as funny.
Months later here we are and it is still just as hurtful. My own experiences with losing more than one pregnancy (including the three I didn't mention in my CIJS post) were painful and there's no time limit on how long we get to grieve our losses. Above all - no one gets the right to poke fun at that. Period. At No time is this ever acceptable. No matter what your intentions are or were - there is nothing funny about losing a child. Friends don't do that to friends. Sometimes it's best to know when not to be the class clown.
I'm glad you finally apologized, but that apology shouldn't have come with any sort of reasoning attached to it because it lessens the sincerity of said apology.
I really hope CL can come back here but honestly, I wouldn't blame her if she decided not to.
Disclaimer: I am only responsible for what I say, not what you choose to understand.
