Don't know how much comfort I can be, but as far as having bad days, weeks, years, I certainly have had them. Lost my mother last year, that really tore me up, but the depression was already there with her health problems and hospital visits over the years. Many times I thought about calling it quits in my life. Not advocating it though. I do know that my late mother would be very pissed at me if I did that. She'd be upset after spending a lifetime of saving for me just for me to give up.
No it isn't easy moving on. But as far as college is concerned, just because you are not good at one thing doesn't mean you cant shift your major to something you might enjoy. Don't simply get a degree because others think that is what you should do, ultimately you need to do it for yourself. And never look at failure as a bad thing, look at it as a learning experience.
There are lots of demands on youth and far to much marketing of "if you don't move up you are a looser." I am not saying don't try to educate yourself. I am saying not everyone will be the next Bill Gates, or the next Jerry Sienfield, or the next Tom Brady, most wont. I have a journalism degree, only spent 3 years in radio, pay was crappy, ended up having to go back to food service. I still do not regret getting the degree, and because of it, I actually ended up learning more on line on my own, after college. I still would not trade it for the world.
Look at it this way.
1. Mental illness does not make you evil, it just means you have a normal problem humans have.
2. Losing someone close to you is an unfortunate part of life. Nobody can tell you how to deal with it, other than to say don't blame yourself.
3. If you cant do something, try something else. Keep doing that maybe you can find something you like.
4. Don't expect to get rich and famous, most people do not.
5. If you cannot find something you like to do, you can always find a job with people you like working with, even if the job itself is not your ideal job.
BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY talk to someone, not just here, when you feel down.
https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/
1-800-273-8255
No it isn't easy moving on. But as far as college is concerned, just because you are not good at one thing doesn't mean you cant shift your major to something you might enjoy. Don't simply get a degree because others think that is what you should do, ultimately you need to do it for yourself. And never look at failure as a bad thing, look at it as a learning experience.
There are lots of demands on youth and far to much marketing of "if you don't move up you are a looser." I am not saying don't try to educate yourself. I am saying not everyone will be the next Bill Gates, or the next Jerry Sienfield, or the next Tom Brady, most wont. I have a journalism degree, only spent 3 years in radio, pay was crappy, ended up having to go back to food service. I still do not regret getting the degree, and because of it, I actually ended up learning more on line on my own, after college. I still would not trade it for the world.
Look at it this way.
1. Mental illness does not make you evil, it just means you have a normal problem humans have.
2. Losing someone close to you is an unfortunate part of life. Nobody can tell you how to deal with it, other than to say don't blame yourself.
3. If you cant do something, try something else. Keep doing that maybe you can find something you like.
4. Don't expect to get rich and famous, most people do not.
5. If you cannot find something you like to do, you can always find a job with people you like working with, even if the job itself is not your ideal job.
BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY talk to someone, not just here, when you feel down.
https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/
1-800-273-8255
