My father

[Deesse23]

That sucks, man. My sincere condolences.

My father was born in 1938 to second generation Lithuanian (father) and Polish (mother) parents

He was an emotionally distant man.

My father is a 1939, and grew up at the german lithuanian border. Family stayed in Russia after the war and settled to Germany in 1960. He also worked his whole life (tractor driver in russia and construction worker in Germany). He also is an emotionally distant man. We get along together, but only if we dont have too much interaction.
He will turn 80 in May and his health is deteriorating rapidly lately (lifetime drinker and smoker).

So, yeah, i think i can relate to your situation.... somehow.