I'm with @TaraJo in that I do better "talking" behind a screen where I can lay it all out and reread it and make sure I say everything. In real life the tears come instantly from -any- conflict. I seriously get so mad at myself for crying when I'm mad. It's a broken record. Get mad, cry, get mad about crying, cry more cause I can't control my own emotions... The written word is so much easier and that's why I reached out to y'all. I really appreciate the input. Y'all are right I need to just stop getting involved. I sat by and watched her berate my mom for years growing up without saying anything and I can do it again. If mom wants to let her do the it's her deal.
This girls weekend between Jesse, my mom, and myself was actually REALLY fun. No one fought, no one yelled or cried, we just had fun for two whole days. This shows that Caitlin is the problem but I don't know if they thought about that and I'm not about to say anything. Caitlin's birthday is next week and I got a group message from Jesse saying she is so sorry but she can't come down for it. She offered to have Caitlin come up and they would celebrate. I think I'm just going to let it pass quietly on my side. I don't have another obligation to see Caitlin until Thanksgiving and maybe it will come across that we don't need to buddy up anymore by then.
It's just hard since Caitlin and I are both maid of honor for Jesse so there will be wedding planning and I can't just tell Jesse to not do group messages to us. But maybe I can just speak directly to Jesse as if Caitlin isn't getting them too and ignore her comments.
This girls weekend between Jesse, my mom, and myself was actually REALLY fun. No one fought, no one yelled or cried, we just had fun for two whole days. This shows that Caitlin is the problem but I don't know if they thought about that and I'm not about to say anything. Caitlin's birthday is next week and I got a group message from Jesse saying she is so sorry but she can't come down for it. She offered to have Caitlin come up and they would celebrate. I think I'm just going to let it pass quietly on my side. I don't have another obligation to see Caitlin until Thanksgiving and maybe it will come across that we don't need to buddy up anymore by then.
It's just hard since Caitlin and I are both maid of honor for Jesse so there will be wedding planning and I can't just tell Jesse to not do group messages to us. But maybe I can just speak directly to Jesse as if Caitlin isn't getting them too and ignore her comments.
“What screws us up the most in life is the picture in our head of what it's supposed to be.”
Also if your signature makes my scrolling mess up "you're tacky and I hate you."
Also if your signature makes my scrolling mess up "you're tacky and I hate you."
