How would you react to finding out you were making out with a transsexual?

[I_am_not_mafia]

And I certainly didn't say that transgenderism isn't a medical condition. Perhaps you should look at what I did say again?

Actually transgenderism isn't a medical condition . Gender dysphoria is and even that's a matter of degrees .

Yes you are quite correct and that's what I should have said. I originally said transsexuality but that wasn't correct either.

There may be a moral obligation, though. If that person finds out later, it can be alarming, whether that is right or wrong. I favor open honesty in sexual relationships.

Yes open honesty is good. But there are so many things to be honest about that if you had to list them all, no one would ever have sex without first signing a contract.

And transsexuality always seems to be the exception that is singled out. No one ever claims you need to reveal your chromosomes before you have sex, for example because you are XY and suffer from androgen insensitivity syndrome and were therefore assigned female at birth. Or that you are intersex or maybe that you are cisgendered but were born infertile and without a womb. But  for some reason everyone starts debating whether transsexuals need to reveal their medical history.

Take sports. Professional athletes all have to have some freakish attribute that enable them to compete at the very top. Whether it's because their blood can hold more oxygen, or have more muscle mass, or they are a cisgendered woman who naturally produces more testosterone. Yet if they are a transsexual woman then everyone starts debating about how they should be banned. Even though in reality transsexual women have been trying and largely failing to compete in professional sports for a long while now.

Take bathrooms (toilets) or locker rooms, or rape crisis centres or women's refuges or women's festivals. No one ever debates whether lesbians should be able to use them even though we know they are sexually attracted to other women. Yet everyone debates whether transsexual women should, even though they have just as much need of it as other women, and most often more so because they are far more marginalised.

Or fertility treatment, or teaching in primary schools. Everyone else is allowed to access fertility treatment or work with children. But if you're transsexual woman then suddenly there's a debate.

Fact is that women are more than just their chromosomes and their biological function. Except when it comes to transsexual women. In their case, their very right to exist and to live a normal life is up for debate even if they pass 100% as a woman. For some reason some aspect of their medical past is deemed to disqualify them from certain basic human rights.

So my question is, why is it that if you are a transsexual woman (for some reason it doesn't apply to transsexual men), does this single aspect of your life have to be an exception in every debate? Why does this always have to be revealed when so many other things don't have to be?

As far as I can see it's all part of a push by the right wing Christians to erase trans-people's existence.