I Don't Care

[Yonadav]

Call me a racist at the drop of a hat. Eventually, I don't care about being called a racist.
Call me a misogynist at the drop of a hat. Eventually, I don't care about being called a misogynist.
I don't care. More and more people don't care. Eventually, who cares?
You didn't want to talk honestly. You wanted to slander. Slander turns stale. Then no one cares.
Some people are really racists. I would have loved to help you with that. But I no longer care.
Some people are really misogynists. I don't care.
I don't care any more.

Maybe I missed something, but I wasn't under the impression that you were a racist or a misogynist.
I do think you can be quite rude though.

One thing I'm seeing here quite often is people asking questions of others and then using that information as ammunition, and then a whole lot of people jumping on that band wagon.
It seems that when you're new here, one or two sentences taken the wrong way can destroy you.
I believe people are more multifaceted than that.

I'm a misogynist for a few reasons. I have pointed out that women can say disparaging things about men all day long, and if any man should happen to object then he is a whiner and possibly a misogynist. But of a man says anything critical about any woman, women, or women in general then he is so totally a misogynist. I have also pointed out that men are required to treat everything that a woman says as if it is intelligent. He can tell men how stupid he thinks the things that they say are, all that he wants. But if he tells one woman that what she's saying is stupid, that woman will call him a misogynist. And her friends will probably gang up on him to. Men have thick skins, despite the constant talk of 'the fragile male ego'. It is women who have very fragile egos. Everyone, everywhere knows that this is true. Constantly being dumped on is something that men are expected to accept. It's part of being a strong man. I have argued that women can never really feel equal to men unless they give up being entitled to belittle men.

I am a racist because I don't feel white guilt. I refuse to be a self loathing white guy, and I am frequently critical of self loathing white guys. I think that it is wrong that black men are more likely to be shot by police. I think that it is wrong that black people tend to receive longer prison sentences than whites for the same crimes. I think that it is wrong that black people are less likely to to be hired by employers. But I am not self loathing. And I am actually pretty proud of the achievements of western culture, despite the fact that we made some horrible mistakes along the way and continue to be far less than perfect. We didn't invent slavery. Every race has practiced slavery. Whites and blacks both practiced slavery. So I don't feel especially responsible for slavery because of the color of my skin.

Many people here are not capable of close or critical reading. I am very interested in the ways that communication fails. I recently wrote that one of my greatest sources of pride was my mother's pride in me. You might think that it would be impossible to be called a misogynist for writing such a thing. But what you write has almost no relation to what a person reads, if they read through the lens of their preconceptions and misconceptions about the writer or the subject material. This sort of distortion is what interests me most in these discussions.