RE: I Don't Care
April 12, 2019 at 6:39 pm
(This post was last modified: April 12, 2019 at 6:51 pm by bennyboy.)
(April 12, 2019 at 4:00 pm)Shell B Wrote: Benny, he identified as male, but had a MTF sex change, according to him. Therefore, "dude" is dude, and that's irrelevant. Whether male or female, he is sexist as a motherfucker.
Personally, I think we're all sexist. I for sure am-- in people I know, there are behaviors that they consistently do that I consider derivative of gender-- either roles or instinct; and for people I don't know well, I have some expectations of how they're likely to behave based on their sex. I can't imagine any honest human being having exactly identical images in their world view for male and female people as general categories.
But if Yonadav had a MTF sex change, there may be something really deep going on there-- like some real pain or a very serious dysphoria. I wish he'd answered my questions about it, but I guess even though he mentioned it, it's still private. Too bad, maybe I'll never know.
(April 12, 2019 at 6:32 pm)Succubus Wrote: Not even the savvy to hide his online presence, but then he could be winding you up.
I gotta say, this thing you guys are doing here, calling someone out because they are showing up as browsing the forum-- not a good look.
I don't like the pitchfork and torch mentality-- whatever a person thinks about me, I'd rather have a chance to talk about it than to run them off. Always. Even if there's real hatred, I'd like to know more about how the person became hateful.
Are we really only inclusive of those who are of a like mind as us? That seems pretty shallow-- not much better than a theist forum, tbh. The "right" type of intolerance is still intolerance, and I don't think it's the best position to take, ever.
Even in the case of a bona-fide KKK member, or a rapist or murder or child-molester are full-on woman or man-hater, I'd want the person to be able to make comments, so I could have a chance to interact with them-- how else will I really understand? I wish these forums would be less tribal, and hold more sincerely to the value of free speech.
There have been a few cases where my own conduct fully tilted someone online, and they ended up being the ones to go too far-- excessive verbal abuse, or whatever. But so long as someone is not just purely trolling (like copy-pasta bullshit or doxing or something), as long as they are expressing their views and attempting to form arguments, I'd never want them run out of town.
