(April 15, 2019 at 12:18 pm)Shell B Wrote: What you expect me to do is be personally insulted and just take it like a bitch.
See, that's an interesting reaction to me.
A lot of people have this apparently automatic reaction that the best thing to do is always fight back. We're supposed to be kind and empathetic and all that until the moment we judge that the other person doesn't deserve it, and then we become justified in making that person feel bad.
Serious question: does fighting back help anything? Or would walking away just stop things?
I'm not talking about Nazis invading Poland. I'm talking about random strangers on the Internet who say things you don't like.
To me, refusing to fall to the level of insult and name-calling is an ideal that keeps us humane. It has nothing to do with the behavior of the other person -- if he or she starts insulting, it just shows that he or she is someone who communicates in that way. In fact I think it demeans the insulter. There is no reason for me to participate in that.
Again, why not explain yourself clearly and, if that doesn't work, walk away?
