I Don't Care

[Athene]

Hmmmm.

I don't want to take a position on the various people currently talking about language, but let me say this: I don't think that fighting back, including swearing, is the same as deeply dehumanizing language.  People swear-- it's a way to show emphasis to the negative feelings they have in a situation-- without dehumanizing someone, and certainly it's more than possible to dehumanize without swearing.

I'm not so much against word choice as against truly malicious intent-- a clear desire to do emotional harm to someone you dislike.

For me, just getting mad in a discussion and saying "Fuck you man, you're a real asshole" isn't that bad.  But a systematic attempt to hurt is.

I can give you an example-- in my thread about rage, I described an incident from about 10 years ago.  My intent was to show one case in which rage was fairly functional (it aided me in a real confrontation with another man who was threatening me), and one case in which is was dysfunctional (it was a very unpleasant moment with a loved family member).  Since then, at least one member has repeatedly called me a wife / child abuser, a monster, a manipulative asshole, kept saying how unlucky my family is to have me a part of it and so on.  This is not just someone venting in the moment-- I believe there's a real intent to do emotional harm, there.  You guys can weigh in on whether I'm right about that-- but certainly, it's not something I've ever done or would do to anyone else in these forums, and I don't feel I deserve to be the target of that kind of behavior.

Well, I never called you a child or wife abuser, actually. Or an asshole. 

I did indeed express sympathy for them because your a self-professed violent powder keg, who refuses to seek professional intervention.
You made several posts and an entire thread that based on the premise that you should be able to terrorize/attack your family and others without being made to "feel bad" about it, OR ELSE you will terrorize/attack others much worse (land later stating that denying you this unique privilege could eventually drive you to hurt/kill yourself.) That your rage, aka "the rage of man" was natural, yet any anger demonstrated by those you victimize or who criticize you is egregiously immoral, and basically akin to a hate crime.

Emotional blackmail at it's finest.

Yes, I do think your're a manipulative monster and quite full of shit.