I Don't Care

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You're far more likely to lose the plot if you bottle up emotions over a period of time. Take your American dustbin neighbour shooter, if he'd only gotten things off his chest in a calm and controlled way, Dave bin stacker might still be alive today.

That's certainly possible! There are probably people so mad at their bosses that they'd happily shoot the next person in line at the supermarket. 

I guess what I want is mature, socially positive ways to do this. Ways that de-escalate, rather than just me taking my own pain and handing it over to someone else, so it becomes his pain.

You've actually prompted me to read up a bit on this subject, seems that apart from the negative effects that bottling up emotions can have on your mental health, there's evidence that it can also affect your physical wellbeing.
Here's an article on the very subject.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/artic...rcent.html