I Don't Care

[Yonadav]

A transsexual is a transsexual. It doesn't matter what clothes they wear. It doesn't matter which pronouns they go by.

What does it mean to be transsexual?

If my brain is female and my body feels female, looks female, works as a female as much as it can, then why aren't I just ... female?

And if so, yeah there is still residual gender dysphoria, but not much worse than other women feel about how big their bum looks in a dress.

Do I even think of myself as transsexual anymore? It's not such a big part of my life any more. It was never an identity. I am so much more than just a transsexual.

That is what I meant by less transsexual. I could have phrased it better but I didn't want to use too many long words with you.

And there's a lot of personal truths there, right? Why should anyone respect your personal truth if you don't respect theirs? If there are a lot of people who would feel violated by unknowingly being intimate with a transsexual, who are we to deny the validity of their feelings of having been violated?

We have no right to demand that a person believe that a transwoman is a woman just like any other woman. We have a right to demand that they treat us with respect and dignity in our day to day lives, but we don't have a right to demand that they have sex with us just like any other woman. When we don't tell them and they don't know, then we are making that demand. We don't have a right to make it. And if they later find out, then they have every right to feel violated.