I Don't Care

[Yonadav]

It's nobody else's business

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And there's a lot of personal truths there, right? Why should anyone respect your personal truth if you don't respect theirs? If there are a lot of people who would feel violated by unknowingly being intimate with a transsexual, who are we to deny the validity of their feelings of having been violated?

We have no right to demand that a person believe that a transwoman is a woman just like any other woman. We have a right to demand that they treat us with respect and dignity in our day to day lives, but we don't have a right to demand that they have sex with us just like any other woman. When we don't tell them and they don't know, then we are making that demand. We don't have a right to make it. And if they later find out, then they have every right to feel violated.

It's none of their business and their feels don't matter

So why should anyone respect your feelings about anything? You don't respect those of others. I sure don't want someone feeling like I violated them.

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If you're reaching for crotch, the only business that matters is your business.  They're your hands.  Come up with something unexpected, well, I guess it's time to laugh or do some soul searching.

LOL, hell, you might even be looking for peen and find the wrong -kind- of peen.  Your problem.  Their toad peen aint your business until you decide to grab it.

It's just the usual dump of responsibility in othering, plausible until you give it a moments thought.  Consider this - "you should have told me it was a mexican dick!"  The gist is a denial of desire for shame.  If only you'd known some x, then maybe you wouldn't have been so damned slutty, lol.  My advice to any guy aquiver with fear over surprise penis is simple.  A, it's not going to happen.  B....on the odd chance it does, lean in, you obviously like her.

Now that you’ve edited your message I think I’m getting a better idea. You wouldn’t expect a one night stand to give you any other personal information on themselves so why this?
So yea, it’s probably on the person who wants to know to ask.

It just being a one night stand doesn't get anyone off the hook. If the person later finds out and feels violated, then you can't just dismiss their feelings because it was just a one night stand. "It was just one time" isn't a defense.