RE: Spanking?
November 7, 2019 at 12:57 am
(This post was last modified: November 7, 2019 at 1:09 am by BrokenQuill92.)
(November 6, 2019 at 11:03 am)Chad32 Wrote: I think it would help people learn to parent better if they didn't feel it's normal to get violent with children. "Stop crying, or I'll give you something to cry about" isn't a good mentality. It only creates a rift between you, and the other person. Discipline, sure, but don't assault them.I totally admit having said this a time or two, however I would never under any circumstances actually hit a child. But usually with small children I don’t have any issues it’s around 10 when they get lippy and wear on your last nerve. Especially since when you’re a midget like me and they think towering over you is funny.
(November 6, 2019 at 8:32 pm)Rev. Rye Wrote: I'm going to leave this here:
https://www.cmaj.ca/content/184/12/1373
TL;DR: dozens of studies have been made on spanking. Not one of them found a real positive to it, but they did find that it led to increased disobedience/aggression/antisocial behavior and an increase in mental health issues (from anxiety to simply not having as much grey matter in their brains) as well as a more strained relationship with the spanker. Basically, everything said parents are trying to avoid.
And on a lighter note, here's a lighter take on the subject, which subtly explains my point, written by James Thurber (complete with his illustration, which, while charming, may not translate well with whatever text-to-speech program BrokenQuill is using).
"James Thurber Wrote:
Q. I have three Scotch terriers which take things out of closets and down from shelves, etc. My veterinarian advised me to gather together all the wreckage, set them down in the midst of it, and say "ba-ad Scotties!" This, however, merely seems to give them a kind of pleasure. If I spank one, the other two jump me -- playfully, but they jump me.
MRS. O. S. PROCTOR
A. To begin with, I question the advisability of having three Scotch terriers. They are bound to get you down. However, it seems to me that you are needlessly complicating your own problem. The Scotties probably think that you are trying to enter into the spirit of their play. Their inability to comprehend what you are trying to get at will in the end make them melancholy, and you and the dogs will begin to drift farther and farther apart. I'd deal with each terrier, and each object, separately, beginning with the telephone, the disconnection of which must inconvenience you sorely.
Also, I've read this a couple times, and only now did I just notice that Mrs. Proctor didn't mention a disconnected telephone in her letter.
No I can’t get voice over to tell me the picture
(November 6, 2019 at 11:22 am)Aegon Wrote: All spanking children did was give them a fetish as adults.
😊maybe
(November 6, 2019 at 12:56 pm)The Valkyrie Wrote:Wait what?!(November 6, 2019 at 12:13 pm)Fireball Wrote: I got beat as a kid. I sure as hell wan't bringing that onto my kids. Taking away favorite playthings worked wonders.
You shot their dog?