(January 21, 2020 at 3:32 pm)Shell B Wrote: It might not bother you, but what about the men who aren't "real" by your standards? Maybe it bothers them to be thought of as "other." My husband doesn't know shit about engines, but can provide better than any mechanic. My father knows his way around an engine like no one else I know, but he wears flip flops in the summer, so did my ex-husband who was a mortar man in the U.S. Army. My feet are like leather. I've never needed proper footwear for anything. I can run barefooted on just about any surface, though it would suck in the woods. My point is, none of this stuff matters at all when it comes to whether a person is a man or not.
Hopefully, you noticed some sarcasm and self-deprecating humor in the post. I don't ultimately conclude they are "other." Some of them might even be able to kick my ass. I was pointing out how a person can have that imprint, be aware of it and get along fine.
If that bothers someone, that's on them.
