(October 23, 2011 at 5:39 pm)Lehrling Wrote: I have, with the help of another adult, recently realized that I am coming off as an arrogant prick on facebook.
Unfortunately, this does have a lot of truth to it.
I think the reason people don't talk to me much on FB is that they think I will bite their head off if they disagree with me or cannot adequately explain their beliefs.
Any advice on repairing my image?
Some older people's advice would be welcome.
OK,I'm an older person (I'm now 64) and am also more than a little arrogant a lot of the time,not to mention pompous and patronising.
I DO make an effort with the members here I like and respect. Not so much for people who irritate me,such as most apologists we get here.
Yes I have a Facebook account,on which I have about a dozen carefully selected friends,all off who accept me as I am,as I do them.
I have two criteria for Facebook friends;
(1) I must know the person in real life,and we need to like and respect each other.
OR
(2) I need to have had a lot of dealings with the person on line,and again there needs to be a certain amount of mutual liking and respect.
I do not link with complete strangers or just because we have a mutual friend.
A long preamble because in my opinion, you are not going to quickly or easily change your personality. Nor do I consider doing so to please others a good reason,
In real life,I've found a simple way is to become a good listener.Learn the skill of 'active listening '( look it up)
Simple tricks on line ;try to opine rather than starting with a declarative or dogmatic position.EG" In my opinion,I think, I feel,I believe". Followed by a reason if possible.
To me.evidence is not necessarily proof,the two terms are not synonymous..
In my opinion,winning an argument does not necessarily mean one is right.
I believe few things are worth heated arguments and flame wars are a waste of time.
Anyone becomes unpleasant on my Facebook account,they get deleted (has never happened so far)
Hope that helps a bit
