(June 28, 2020 at 7:25 pm)TaraJo Wrote:(June 28, 2020 at 7:12 pm)Abaddon_ire Wrote: It isn't a habit. It is a statistical likelyhood. Where ever you encounter a possible date, it is likely that they will be religious just by sheer weight of numbers. There are way more of them then there are of us. I will grant that the atheist/humanist/secular position is growing rather rapidly, but we are nowhere near the numbers the various religions can command. ("command" used intentionally)
Yeah, I've suspected that. Especially since I live in Oklahoma. Lots of churches around here. Lived in Texas from 2009-2016 and it's not much better there. Fortunately for me, I'm kinda forced to date pretty progressive minded guys and they're less likely to be especially religious or, at least, they're not dick-head fundamentalists about it. Before 2008 or so, I was pretty much open to all walks of life but, surprisingly, I still wound up in a long term relationship with someone from a pretty fundy background that went from 2011 until just this last March.
Last March? OK I am going to park that raw wound. Say as much or as little as you feel comfortable with sharing. No demands or expectations.
Better I freely share my own path.
My hex-wife was strict RCC and I was a godless heathen. This was not an issue until kids happened. Still not an issue. Then they grew enough to start asking questions. Mom, how come Dad doesn't come to mass? Then divorce happened. After that things rumbled along for a couple of years and then my two kids did something I never expected. They told her to foxtrot right oscar and refused to go to mass on the grounds that it was no different than Santa and at least one can observe Santa every christmas on NORAD.
This was none of my doing, of course, but I realised that blame would be laid upon me for their lack of faith. Because I am the godless heathen.
Such are the slings and arrows. I freely admit astonishment that they worked up the wontons to do that.
