(July 15, 2020 at 4:47 pm)Gnomey Wrote:(July 15, 2020 at 4:27 pm)Abaddon_ire Wrote: As you said, you are still you. Keep doing that.
I absolutely will, Abbadon! Thanks so much.
No problem. I and my three siblings were raised RCC and one by one just quietly dropped that whole kettle of crazy. The devout RCC parents are long dead now and we are globally distributed, but on those rare occasions when we get together, we often ponder how it is that two devout catholics gave rise to four heathen progeny. The consensus seems to be that they gave all four of us a thirst for knowledge and the means to acquire it.
There was never any unpleasantness about it, though. They respected that their progeny simply held different beliefs, or more precisely, not any beliefs at all. The eldest was, of course, the pathfinder. She hooked up with a bloke, bought a house, moved in and all that. Then after a few years, married the guy. Pop refused to set foot in their home until after they tied the knot.
This is the subtle way that opprobrium is doled out. Easy to miss, but still there. Her response to that was simply the hell with it, I am living the life I want to live the way I want to live it. If you choose not to enter my home for religious reasons that is your problem, not mine. And she was right.
This is what the religious tend to do. Make choices and insist that YOU are somehow responsible for THEIR choice. And it is incredibly dishonest.
Now, I have no idea what your family dynamic is, how could I? But my feeling is that you get the same sort of unspoken disapproval vibe going on. It goes away eventually most of the time.
