(April 1, 2021 at 2:27 am)SUNGULA Wrote: My issue with the golden rule is how self-centered it seems to use yourself as the ultimate standard of how to treat other people. Rather than considering that other people perhaps should be treated how they wish to be treated.
I guess I always saw that as an extension of the golden rule. You wouldn't want something to just be done to you, would you? You'd like someone to ask and consider your feelings, right? That sort of thing.
I think it works as a shortcut to moving empathy. Because sometimes we do prioritize ourselves with no consideration for anyone else. "How would you like it?" is that quick key to unlock a perspective shift. "Oh. Right. That would suck. I shouldn't do that to them because their feelings might mirror mine." I don't think I ever thought of the Golden Rule as used for license to prioritize myself. "I love it when someone does this to me so of course they'll love it if I do this! (but in actuality, it's not something a lot of people like) I will skip asking first!" That is not the way it works.
