If everything has a purpose then evil doesn't exist

[R-Farmer]

My father was a bigamist. (would not divorce my mother, but kept a side piece that 'we' think she fathered a loser son for him drugs prison etc, even today. he kept her on the side till he died in 2019) So not really a religious person growing up.

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My mother was but did not speak English very well, so she went to a church that spoke her language, and in her culture children of mixed race were not accepted in the 70s and 80s. So we were not allowed in the church building durning church service. My sister and I generally stay out and played on the play ground till we were old enough to refuse to go. (They did not have an English speaking children's program.) 

My father would not allow us to go to any other church with friends in the 70s and 80s. The mistress found a very progressive church and my father made us all go including my mother (she had to quit her church to do this) So my mom my dad his side piece and 3 kids (not the side piece loser son) all went to this progressive church for a few months.. Then people started asking questions and Side piece became our 'aunt.' I forgot how they found out that she was not related and My dad just had us all quit. didn't set foot in a church from about the 6th grade till my mid 20s.

so no, no particular church no specific denomination. Maybe that's why The church I did go to was a non denominational church, and when I moved out into the country I just started going and supporting the local baptist church. As again I see a clear line between the religious aspect of worship and having an active relationship with God. This allows me the freedom to go into any Jesus Christ centered church and worship God one on one, and not resign my beliefs over to denominationally specific practices. Which is how and why I do not have to accept or teach YEC principles nor subscribe to the accept Ark narrative that most baptists do.

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Your father was not a bigamist.  He was a cheater.  He didn't have two wives.

they were married by some douche bag shaman on a cruise they took together with 1/2 a dozen of their friends. (He wore a wedding ring for her and my mom) Which he was married to first by a judge. We found this out because my mother legally had the rights to his full estate even though he made 'Auntie side piece' the executor of his will and was claiming to the doctors to be his wife. He went in for by pass surgery, and every decision about his care went through her. we were not even allowed to see him unless she put us on the list. Hell of a way to find something like this out.

What else don't you understand?

why this is so important to you. why you feel the need to interject your understanding of what my family went through in a way to try and 'correct' a life experience I shared. Then to be nasty on top of it all. I don't understand any of that.