(June 27, 2023 at 10:11 am)arewethereyet Wrote:(June 27, 2023 at 9:58 am)R-Farmer Wrote: they were married by some douche bag shaman on a cruise they took together with 1/2 a dozen of their friends. (He wore a wedding ring for her and my mom) Which he was married to first by a judge. We found this out because my mother legally had the rights to his full estate even though he made 'Auntie side piece' the executor of his will and was claiming to the doctors to be his wife. He went in for by pass surgery, and every decision about his care went through her. we were not even allowed to see him unless she put us on the list. Hell of a way to find something like this out.
why this is so important to you. why you feel the need to interject your understanding of what my family went through in a way to try and 'correct' a life experience I shared. Then to be nasty on top of it all. I don't understand any of that.
Boo-fucking-hoo.
Poor boy had a philandering father.
what do you mean? My dad was a good father.. just not a traditional one.
I was asked if I went to church as a child. I did not, and my father's life style was the reason why he did not go, and if he didn't have to go I wasn't going to go either..
For me growing up we did not know any better.
It wasn't a good thing or a bad thing. it just was.. We found out later in life and we were angry for a while but ultimately This effected my mother more than us, and she chose to forgive him and stay. She saw how auntie side piece help and supported my dad in a traditional white, English speaking, culturally adept way, and she was ok with that as she did not want to do all of the social functions anyway. Plus in her culture the husband generally has a wife and a concubine. where the wife is head of the house hold and the concubine "concubined"
I tried to explain this to my wife but she wasn't having it..
