The Historical Jesus

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Okay so this is a fascinating (and extremely important to understand) concept in human Psychology.

Basically an avoidant attachment style means that you avoid feelings of warmth and closeness with people.

One way to describe it is as the Fear of Falling in Love. 
In order to Love someone you have to make yourself vulnerable.

Once you see it in yourself, you'll be able to see it in most people. The reason why a girl may simply excuse herself from a good conversation and walk away from a handsome man is because she is unfamiliar with the experience of healthy Love.

Same goes for people who always find themselves in abusive or toxic relationships, this is what they are familiar with. The idea of fighting for someone to act like they Love you. You would be surprised by how many people will avoid a healthy connection in favor of a connection of a more Lascivious nature.

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There may also be a much more prosaic (and less sexist) explanation for her walking away. The man’s conversation could be a deal breaker, for example, or he may smell like an unlimed outhouse.

Boru

Okay Boru, but why does your response reject the authority of the original author?



To address Sheldon specifically,

Okay Sheldon, I am doing my best to understand what your arguments are, however, we have at this point created such a large chain of broken communication that it is almost impossible to address all of the claims that you have made about my messaging.

I want to understand what your arguments are and I don't want you to feel as though I am straw manning you.

So here is my offer, instead of going backwards (and appealing to a long history of contentious quotes) I think instead we can just agree to go forward with a blank-slate.

Let's start this conversation anew, we will go one argument at a time and once we have said most of everything that we can about that one topic (or argument) we will move on to another.

Do these terms sound agreeable to you?