RE: urge to pray - advice/help
February 2, 2012 at 1:52 am
(This post was last modified: February 2, 2012 at 2:23 am by passionatefool.)
(February 2, 2012 at 1:24 am)reverendjeremiah Wrote: Talk to yourself...fuck what anyone else thinks. Say it out loud.
"Calm down ...Ive got to calm down"
count to ten always helps me too
Pick up your guitar and thrash some hard core raw shit
Take a rock and smash someones head in....er...maybe you shouldnt do that.
Try to think of something funny.
Try to think of someone worse off than you...hey, it might be bad, but at least you arent living in Saudi Arabi where they cut peoples heads off in the local shopping mall parking lot. Or at least you arent in ethiopia starving, or suffering from some fucked up disease.
There are so many ways.... I would suggest building up your sense of humor.
When Im at work and people get mad or frustrated on the job I tell them to go to the shit house and calm down before they say something they will later regret.
Haha alright thand i will try to think of something really funny..or really terrible and sad next time. Shouldnt be hard lol....
(February 2, 2012 at 1:31 am)KichigaiNeko Wrote:Passionate Wrote:the cause of my anxiety is about my family or people who are close to me, not myself. I feel like something horrible will happen to them, and it feels so real.
Why should you feel this way?? Do you feel guilt that there may have been something you could do to stop them being hurt??Just what is this something that can happen to them?? There is also the concept that they are individuals who will not thank you for your concern if it stops them doing as they would like to. Welcome to the REAL world honey....there is ALOT that one person is incapable of... good grief look what has happened to the Buddha.
And I don't care what you say you still practice Zen to a certain albeit non-religious level.
It isnt guilt or anything. I just have this really bad thought process that always end up with me feeling like they are going to be hurted not necessary because of what they do or if they care about my concern or not, but something out of their control, which is why praying used to work so well before. This is just one of the reason why i often freak out. I freak out over random things alot for no reason. Or something little will turn into a deadly issue for me because I get paranoid a little. lol and it nags at me and make me feel likes there is a tight knot. ... really uncomfortable. Sorry if I sound crazy and stupid but you know what I mean.
Before I was practicing chinese Zen called Chan which was more religious and does involve praying, much more religious than japanese Zen. I gave that up. So I dont know in which way am I practicig Zen nonreligiously now other than I meditate sometimes.
Thank you for the help and suggestion though.
