If they're not doing academically well enough, perhaps addressing the root of the problem is better than simply paying them off in cash?
If they're unhappy with never being able to buy things, then either offer an allowance for chores done or have them get a job. Be supportive, drive them around, etc,. Help solve the issues in their life and offer them an infrastructure to develop their own life path. That probably is infinitely of more value to a youth than simple hush money.
Get them started with basic things, like phones (but let them choose it and make it a super simple phone), an older laptop (the ones you get for 200$), etc,. Then offer them a way to improve their outlook -- like that aforementioned job/chores.
Children and young adults are thinking beings. They know when they're being patronized, treated lesser or otherwise ignored. While most of them at certain points cannot understand rather basic concepts, they learn rather fast. Idle rewards are easy pickings -- I expect any intelligent child to figure out how to get those and remain at just that.
Though, to be fair, in the grand context of this thread, rewarding your kid because they made honor roll (holding a set gpa for a certain time) is definitely a must do. But then again, you're celebrating and recognizing them event and importance of long term accomplishment, than short term goals.
If they're unhappy with never being able to buy things, then either offer an allowance for chores done or have them get a job. Be supportive, drive them around, etc,. Help solve the issues in their life and offer them an infrastructure to develop their own life path. That probably is infinitely of more value to a youth than simple hush money.
Get them started with basic things, like phones (but let them choose it and make it a super simple phone), an older laptop (the ones you get for 200$), etc,. Then offer them a way to improve their outlook -- like that aforementioned job/chores.
Children and young adults are thinking beings. They know when they're being patronized, treated lesser or otherwise ignored. While most of them at certain points cannot understand rather basic concepts, they learn rather fast. Idle rewards are easy pickings -- I expect any intelligent child to figure out how to get those and remain at just that.
Though, to be fair, in the grand context of this thread, rewarding your kid because they made honor roll (holding a set gpa for a certain time) is definitely a must do. But then again, you're celebrating and recognizing them event and importance of long term accomplishment, than short term goals.
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