Oh, I see what you mean. As I stated in response to a previous post, maybe I keep feeling guilty so I won't forget and slip back into that kind of behavior. Is that what you mean?
What is a "fluffy" appraisal? Do you mean when I said I owe her feeling bad twice a year? Even though I think I see your point, nothing about this situation feels "fluffy" to me. It feels like iron weights.
It does sort of change my perspective to think about the situation in terms of what I might be "getting out of it," like a twice-yearly reminder not to act like an asshole. I hope I can think about it from this angle in October.
What is a "fluffy" appraisal? Do you mean when I said I owe her feeling bad twice a year? Even though I think I see your point, nothing about this situation feels "fluffy" to me. It feels like iron weights.
It does sort of change my perspective to think about the situation in terms of what I might be "getting out of it," like a twice-yearly reminder not to act like an asshole. I hope I can think about it from this angle in October.


