I Would Like To Talk to Atheists Who Aren't Assholes. Do Any of You Exist?

[Antropos]

Well, I'm a distressed Catholic looking for answers to some very important questions, but so far the atheists who have responded to me have been rude and obnoxious.

And you are confirming my opinion, which I formed in another forum, that most atheists are assholes and really, they don't know how to debate or carry on a civilized conversation.

So really, if you guys don't get wise you are going to drive me off and I will leave with the impression that there's no point in talking to atheists.

And well, if the point of this forum is to gain converts to your cause, you guys are seriously blowing it if you don't act like normal people instead of jerks.

I believe the best way to answer your question(s) is through the order in which you asked them so I will begin by first stating that I can relate to your situation. When I began to become distressed over my religious views I began to notice a lot of cynicism in the conversations I first encountered. Both sides have so many differentiating opinions that at times it overwhelmed me.
Which brings me to my next point in saying that in every religious or philosophical group there will be a great number of people who are rude. I came to this conclusion as well. Then I began to notice a few people who actually could carry on decent conversations. Unfortunately, on both sides of any debate, you will first encounter many people who can not converse in a civilized manner. (Also keep in mind that a lot of atheists/agnostics have had difficulty conversing with religious oriented people and state the same complaints as you.)
Lastly, in my opinion, the following comment needs some serious addressing: "if the point of this forum is to gain converts to your cause, you guys are seriously blowing it if you don't act like normal people instead of jerks." In my experience, atheists strongly dislike (as do I) when people state that "atheism is a religion because it requires faith." Atheism is not a religion. in my opinion it is a lack of religion. I feel as if though by stating that atheists want to, 'convert people to their cause,' you associate them with religion. Atheists are not religious, that is why they are atheists. I for myself complained about similar things as you but learned the virtue of patience. You must be patient in your search for answers. Answers of this sort do not come easily and you should be weary to post something like this because it will anger people and cause some to react hastily and irrationally and you will have gone no further in you search for civilized conversation.