(October 25, 2012 at 4:51 pm)MysticKnight Wrote:
Well, Islam never said not to have sex. It simply said to have it in marriage. And it said not to marry fornicators (defined as those whom regularly have sex outside marriage and didn't repent and stop).
Back in the day, it was common for young men and young women to get married.
Now it's harder. You have to get education, then good job, get established, then finally a father will let you marry his daughter.
To be fair, there wasn't anything to prevent kids from being born back in the day right?
So sex outside marriage can mean some kids without a father to take care of them. And that's not really good for the kids.
Now we have tools to stop that.
I often get astounded (and rather sarcastic) at people harking back to the "good old days where we...{insert current item here}" It is rather silly Mystic for you to feel depressed because "back in the day we {insert} were able to do {insert} Today is no harder that this mythical, magical yesterday many harken back to (mostly those of a religious mindset).
"The Good Old Days" never happened and like so many fictitious ideologies is a dangerous (to one's mental health) concept to hold onto. Making people marry only opened a plethora of other abuses against children and women. One is still in a better financial position if one has a good education, a job (with potential career), equity in a house to propose that he would be a very good candidate to be a husband for said father's daughter (who is just looking to ditch a fiscal obligation?) Kids "back in the days" still got born, still had no male to look after them financially along with all those other males that died from war, disease and occupational hazards. Both my children were contraception babies so don't rely on those "tools" too much; along with their fathers who used the pseudo-religious shame for "out of wedlock child" as a reason to flea their obligations for raising said child.
OK The above seems very negative BUT as others have said "Embrace life and that fact that you have options!" So whether you do or do not have sex "outside marriage" is really up to you. It is still common for people to marry, have kids etc. Why are you so concerned? You seem to focussing far too much on what if's and I am sorry that your indoctrination has caused you to deny your humanity. With all it's imperfections it is fun, so go out and enjoy whatever you do. Although, the Wine, Women and Song is a great place to start.
Stop beating yourself up mate. You are far too young for that!
"The Universe is run by the complex interweaving of three elements: energy, matter, and enlightened self-interest." G'Kar-B5
