(May 16, 2013 at 9:58 pm)Rhythm Wrote:I meant used to be in a FWB.(May 16, 2013 at 9:53 pm)ideologue08 Wrote: Okay, imagine that you have a girlfriend who used to be in a FWB sort of relationship. How would you feel, knowing that she has a friend whom she contacts regularly, but is also a ready-made booty call? How can anyone man be in a relationship with such a girl? Would you really trust her with what used to be her FWB? Could you even stand to look at him?
I'm not sure I understand, she -used to be- in this sort of arrangement or still is? If the former, I was never the kind of guy who got high and mighty about whose thingamajig any of my love interests crammed into their hoo-hoo-dillies. If the latter, I'd just have to pass on a relationship with her. I'm not into three-ways. My best friend married an ex of mine, theyre good for each other, we used to go out and get smashed on weekends while he watched their kids. Why wouldn't he trust me? My wife's been known to go out and get hammered with an ex of hers as well (really cool guy, I'm a big fan) - I never lost any sleep over it.
Yes, but the key difference is, she was your girlfriend before, i.e. you were in a proper relationship. But when friends don't make any commitment to each other other than sex, that's way beyond the pale. It means they could literally just continue to do that even after they make other relationships with impunity because they are desensitized to the idea of bedding your friend. Once they associate a friend with their bed (which is what FWB is), it's pretty difficult to trust them in a real proper relationship.
