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[Cinjin]

As true as that poster is, it's not really just about sex though, ya know?


I don't know how to explain "spark."

Given what you've said of your history and what you said in this post, I wonder if the problem isn't with you or this other person but the relationship with your wife. Unexpressed and unresolved conflicts and resentments can build up and kill your sexual desires for your spouse. Love and lust are not the same but they are catalysts for one another. Resolving that conflict or tension or whatever in the relationship may renew that spark you have with your wife and therefore relieve any temptation to look for it elsewhere.

-Disclaimer: just an amateur psychology opinion of someone who doesn't know you personally or your situation in great detail. You may want to get professional counseling.

Coming from you DP, it's likely good advice. It's also not that things are all that bad - things are just tired and boring. I think I miss the excitement of getting to know someone. I think it's more than the sex ... or should I say potential sex, since I have done nothing more than have a conversation.

Sometimes being human sucks. For me it's gotten to be an ever-present need to change things up in one way or another.