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[Rahul]

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I'm late 30's
Married 8 years - (1st marriage)
1 Child, my son

I'm late 30's
Married 10 years - (1st marriage)
2 Children, both my girls

Being attracted to women other than your wife, not only physically, but mentally is normal enough. My wife and I don't hold to unreasonable concepts that once you are married you suddenly don't find anyone else attractive ever again. So that's not the issue. You can look but don't touch is fine. Heck maybe a little casual PG-13 touching if everybody is ok with it. Anything more than that I don't have any experience with so can't help you there. Though the wife and I have discussed things when we've had a few occasionally.

The issue is that you find your relationship with your wife boring.

Now some of this might be the normal ups and downs of any relationship. My wife and I go through these times.

You're at 8 years married, pretty close to the "7 year itch" thing. So maybe that's just it. Plus you've been out of the new relationship game long enough that you're conveniently ignoring the annoying shit and mainly remembering the exciting parts. Humans do this with all memories as they become more distant.

Relationships suck a lot of the times. But the longer you're in one, the more you can learn and adapt to the person you're with.

Need to communicate more. Try new things. Branch out in your relationship together. Maybe involve a relationship professional if you two think it may help. But I wouldn't jump on that at first.

First just start discussing shit. Then get freaky with some lube and porn a few nights. Maybe join a kink group.

Imagination is your limit.

Just don't be a bastard. You know what I mean.