Men Women Sex and Temptation

[Esquilax]

So, I'm a young fellow, currently in a committed relationship, but in the past I've been in open ones, polyamorous ones, casual ones... I've had my share of sex/love things where another person gets involved, is what I'm saying. The one rule I've had that entire time is never cheat; it does nobody any good. Not you, not your wife, not the new girl... yes, you'll get a thrill, yes there will be fun times, but eventually those chickens come home to roost.

Now, the naive part of me wants to suggest trying poly stuff for yourself, but I know most people aren't set up for that. Ultimately, if it was me it'd be down to two choices: stay with the one you're with, or leave for the new pasture. I wouldn't encourage you one way or the other- you're the only one in your headspace, it's your call to make- but I wouldn't consider cheating as an option; even if you do get away with it forever, you'll still know. You seem like a pretty good guy, I doubt you'd feel completely okay with it.

That being said, there's nothing wrong with having these feelings, nor with expressing them, and I reserve the right to just be completely wrong here on every point. All's I can do is wish you luck in the end, and hope that whatever decision you do make, it's the right one.