Men Women Sex and Temptation

[John V]

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I'm late 30's
Married 8 years - (1st marriage)
1 Child, my son

Before I was married I had many sexual partners. What can I say, I'm not a D-bag sheep who thinks an invisible man in the sky is judging me for doing what nature has instructed me to do.

That being said, I've been a musician for much of my life and although I've never cheated on my wife, I've had ample opportunity to do so.
Recently, I had this wonderful conversation with a woman who engaged me on every level. I was stimulated in every way a person has the ability to be stimulated. This woman is not my wife. You can probably already tell where I'm going with this.

There are 3 billion women in the world. There are women who are better conversationalists than your wife, or prettier, or funnier, or better in bed, or whatever. You knew that and you married your wife anyway.

Now you've met one such woman. Nothing has changed. You married your wife knowing such women existed. And guess what - there are women better in some ways than this new one.

Grow up and honor your commitment.

Stop spending time with other women. Even if it doesn't go to the physical, you're still cheating on your wife by giving away time and attention that she deserves, and that would likely improve your relationship if given to your wife. Most married men should stick to male friends.

Write a list for us of all the good things about your wife.

If you need change, change a room in your house or take up a new hobby.

Biblically, a man and wife become one flesh. Personally I think there's a lot more to that than meets the eye. I believe that if you're not happy with your wife, you're really not happy with yourself.

Divorce shouldn't even be a thought since there's a child involved and there's no abuse involved.