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[John V]

Thought police? Man, ideas just happen, unless you're brain dead. While you can somewhat control the scope and duration of them, blasting someone for acknowledging it is crass.

First, I don't consider "grow up" as "blasting someone." Much harsher rebukes are issued here towards theists every day.

Second, the point isn't having the thoughts - most everyone does. The thought of change is exciting, and moms of young kids generally don't have much energy left to devote to the husband. By saying grow up, I'm saying he should recognize his thoughts in this context and deal with them accordingly.

You are also making a judgment call on someone else with your personal views on marriage as your guide. It's not necessarily an issue, but not all couples view marriage the same.

Unless he tells me otherwise, it's reasonable for me to assume that they viewed it at the time as a lifetime commitment.