Men Women Sex and Temptation

[Cinjin]

Meanwhile, I feel my wife and I beginning to fall away from each other, and it makes me wonder if I should let us go while we both still have time to meet someone new. I don't know. Life is such a mixed up journey and you don't always know if you've made the right choice till it's too late.

Do you and your wife get much time alone, one on one? I know, for me, once we had our first kid both my husband and I were in a perpetual state of parenting mode. Which left little time for the two of us to be close and connected. I miss the fact that we can't just go out because we feel like it, or have a quiet dinner at home together talking. This was a big problem for us until we started proactively scheduling time to spend together. It sucks having to prearrange things, line up a sitter, not to mention its more expensive since we have to pay someone to watch the kids on top of what it costs to go out. But sometimes we just simply plan to put the kids to bed early. Typically, we'll let them read books in bed, so long as they stay there quietly. But it gives us some much needed couple time.

I think this too is good advice. It's people like you that have something to offer to this thread.
No, we don't get much time alone. Like everyone else, we're both very busy maintaining the life we have created around us.
In truth, I don't think it would be all that difficult to get back some of that spark we've lost.

The OP was meant to stir conversation among rational people who may have some insight on monogamy and the like. I was looking for some truth about the reality of living with the same person for an entire lifetime. I already know what John V and the rest of the sheep have to say about it - they're a bunch of halfwit fucktards who follow the scribblings of primitives - they have nothing legitimate or useful to add.

The truth is I was never going to cheat on my wife, but can anyone really ever rule out divorce? (rhetorical) I find it interesting though that in a "weakened" state of marital harmony, one can find themselves very drawn to a new potential partner. The majority of us here are not believers in some kind of higher moral directive and yet not a one of us has said, "you should go bang that chick." This of course was no surprise to me, as us non-believers often have a much higher ethical code than the christians. However, I was a mildly surprised that only one really recognized the value and the good that can come from divorce. Mind you, I'm not looking for validation to get a divorce. I'm looking for insight on the entire topic.

What makes people bored with someone they use to dream about?
What happens to people when they become parents that makes them miserable bastards?
Why do some couples change so effortlessly together while others slowly fade apart?

This woman I met in a chance meeting had nothing to do with my current situation. She can't be at fault.

Is it nature?
Were people meant to be monogamous couples their whole lives? Is that nature?
Is it all our fault? Is it only partially our fault? None?
Why does a piece of paper make leaving a partner so much worse than two people who have never put their names on a marriage license?

Unmarried people have children all the time. If they separate, people don't seem to blink an eye. Are we just as brainwashed as the christians or is there some biological cause in there somewhere?