My first fiance was a mamma's girl who was never going to move out of the house or do anything to upset her mother. Her mother identified me as a threat to that relationship and eventually worked on her daughter enough to break it off. All the love and devotion on my part made no difference. Had we married, we'd have eventually divorced.
My second fiance was in love with me and I was trying to return the feelings. "Trying" being the operative word. In retrospect, I wasn't doing her any favors by making the effort for something I was never going to feel. Had we gotten married, I can't imagine it would have been a happy one for either of us.
My wife's first husband was a very abusive man. Her self-esteem was much lower than it is now. Her devotion to him only prolonged the pain for her and delayed the inevitable divorce.
It's about both FINDING and BEING the right person. Deficiency in either one will cause the marriage to fail.
My second fiance was in love with me and I was trying to return the feelings. "Trying" being the operative word. In retrospect, I wasn't doing her any favors by making the effort for something I was never going to feel. Had we gotten married, I can't imagine it would have been a happy one for either of us.
My wife's first husband was a very abusive man. Her self-esteem was much lower than it is now. Her devotion to him only prolonged the pain for her and delayed the inevitable divorce.
It's about both FINDING and BEING the right person. Deficiency in either one will cause the marriage to fail.
Atheist Forums Hall of Shame:
"The trinity can be equated to having your cake and eating it too."
... -Lucent, trying to defend the Trinity concept
"(Yahweh's) actions are good because (Yahweh) is the ultimate standard of goodness. That’s not begging the question"
... -Statler Waldorf, Christian apologist
"The trinity can be equated to having your cake and eating it too."
... -Lucent, trying to defend the Trinity concept
"(Yahweh's) actions are good because (Yahweh) is the ultimate standard of goodness. That’s not begging the question"
... -Statler Waldorf, Christian apologist
